It's A Phase! Don't Miss It! | The Building Years - Adulthood

God has designed life to be a wonderful adventure, from the first breath on the planet to the day we leave for our forever home. There are distinct and delightful phases to the journey, each unique and filled with purpose. But they all pass more quickly than we think. Understand the design, challenges, and opportunities of each phase so you can find fulfillment along the way and complete the journey with joy. 

The key task of adulthood is becoming the person God intended me to be and embracing my identity.

Message Notes

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
I Corinthians 13:11

Adulthood—the time you have it all together and life is smooth, right? Not so much.
This broad time span is when we make 3-5 major decisions, and then spend the rest of our lives managing those decisions.

Adulthood is a challenging phase. We are not only living our OWN life; we are setting a standard for those who follow us.

There are key tasks that lead to the person God intended you to be.


Achieving autonomy

Knowing and establishing identity

Developing emotional stability


Managing a household

Finding intimacy--forming close, honest, long-term relationships

Developing life contributions—family/career/passions


Becoming part of community

Repairing my past

Managing my memories

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” I Thessalonians 5:18

It’s a phase. Don’t miss it.

Bottom Line

The key task of adulthood is becoming the person God intended me to be and embracing my identity.

Action Steps

  1. If you have not had a Freedom in Christ appointment, make one; do everything required to maintain your freedom. 

  2. Seek counseling if you need it. 

  3. Make a personal and family mission statement.

  4. Develop skills in areas of lack—finances, parenting, housekeeping.

  5.  Get in a cGroup and volunteer as a Ministry Partner.

  6. Start a gratitude journal.