If You Can't Beat Them, Join Them | Foolish

The world is filled with difficult people. It is impossible to avoid them. You try everything – confrontation, or compromise, or being passive, or even straight ignoring it. Too often these people drag you into their issues and your best attempts at making peace fail. You want to handle your relationships in a way that honors God and preserves your sanity – but is it even possible?

Difficult people in our lives are often who the Bible refers to as "fools." Dealing with fools requires a special kind of wisdom. Insights from the biblical book of Proverbs will help us with the foolish people in your life—even that fool is you.


Unfortunately, this is the most common reaction to life with a fool. You get so entangled with the fool that your own mind becomes muddied. You are so affected by the fool’s behavior you behave foolishly, too. How can you peel your eyes off your fool to live a life of wisdom?

Message Notes

Two Mistakes With a Fool:

1. Repeated rescues

Hot-tempered people must pay the penalty. If you rescue them once, you will have to do it again.
Proverbs 19:19

2. Refusal to disentangle.

Don’t befriend angry people or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul.
Proverbs 22:24-25

Foolish Strategies to Deal with a Fool:

Pampering

Pouting

Passivity

Protecting

Pleading

Pleasing

Prodding

Attempting to relate with a fool is exhausting, because a fool will “give you no rest.”
Proverbs 29:9

If you try to change a fool, you will fail. “The discipline of fools is folly (irrational).”
Proverbs 16:22

You must choose to seek wisdom. Abigail - I Samuel 25

1.      She knew the facts.

2.      She faced the facts.

3.      She knew what to do.

4.      She did it.

Face your fears.

Face the facts.

Choose truth over the lies.

Ask God for wisdom, and then courage to do what wisdom says.