The world is filled with difficult people. It is impossible to avoid them. You try everything – confrontation, or compromise, or being passive, or even straight ignoring it. Too often these people drag you into their issues and your best attempts at making peace fail. You want to handle your relationships in a way that honors God and preserves your sanity – but is it even possible?
Difficult people in our lives are often who the Bible refers to as "fools." Dealing with fools requires a special kind of wisdom. Insights from the biblical book of Proverbs will help us with the foolish people in your life—even that fool is you.
Sometimes the fool is our spouse, child, sibling, or parent. How difficult is that? Except when we are very angry, we make excuses for that person. We can’t consider labeling them a fool. We spend lifetimes trying to make them look better. It is hard to admit that it will never work. We have to do something different. You can give up the strategies that will never work and always leave you defeated. You can put away childish things. You can speak the truth in love. You can untangle from the dysfunction. You can overcome evil with good.
A love relationship with a fool is generally characterized by childish behavior on both sides.
Man means adult, mature person
How do children speak?
They say whatever they think, whenever they think it, to whomever they wish, without considering the effect.
An adult has awareness than his or her words have power, and carefully controls their speech.
How do children think and reason?
They think about themselves and what they can get for themselves.
An adult is willing to consider others’ needs and other ways.
A new strategy for the old battle:
The goal of seeking wisdom is not to change the other person, but for you to become a holy, healthy, happy functioning person.
Turn away from evil.
Overcome evil with good
Speak the truth
If you are ready to follow, God will lead you.