The world is filled with difficult people. It is impossible to avoid them. You try everything – confrontation, or compromise, or being passive, or even straight ignoring it. Too often these people drag you into their issues and your best attempts at making peace fail. You want to handle your relationships in a way that honors God and preserves your sanity – but is it even possible?
Difficult people in our lives are often who the Bible refers to as "fools." Dealing with fools requires a special kind of wisdom. Insights from the biblical book of Proverbs will help us with the foolish people in your life—even that fool is you.
The only hope for you AND your fool is for you to give up the role of savior. There is ONE Savior, and it is not you. Releasing your fool into God’s care is so hard because most of the time it feels wrong. The fool is angry and accusatory, and we feel guilty. But release is the ultimate surrender. You can get so entangled with your fool that you forget he or she has a Heavenly Father who cares more than you do. He promises that if you will get out of the way, he will get involved and make all things work together for your good.
God has a goal for a fool: Daniel 4:27-35
What would you be willing for your fool to endure in order to leave behind his foolishness and know God truly?
What would you be willing to release to God for your fool to be changed?
Savior: One who brings salvation from danger or destruction.
“You didn’t cause it, you can’t cure it, you can’t even control it. There is one Savior, and it is not you.”
When You Let Go
- You are making a positive step toward freeing yourself from binding chaos and complications.
- You are releasing your fool to the natural consequences of his/her behavior.
- You will step out of denial into reality where only God can work.
- You remove yourself from the fool’s realm of influence and you give up responsibility for your fool.
- It is a conscious effort on your part, and an act of faith.
“I am going to trust God and look to him alone to be my source and resource. I will keep my focus on him.”
The Foolish Son and the Wise Father show us what that looks like.
- The very best thing you can do for a prodigal is let them go.
- God can use the consequences of their choices to bring them to their senses and home.
- Real repentance and change makes no demands.
Letting go is the right surrender, but it can feel very wrong.
You and your fool both have a very great need, and only God can meet it.
If you don’t let him, YOU are a fool.
Fool-proofing your life is a serious journey, but not a hopeless one:
- Become responsible for yourself.
- Submit yourself to the God who made you.
- Release your beloved fool into the Savior’s hands.
- Access the power and protection of the God who loves you both.