Summer School | Three Big People Skills

When it’s summer, no one wants to go to school. But actually, summer school can help you catch up to speed pretty quickly on some absolutely essential lessons you may have missed. There are some lessons you just can’t skip because no one enters adulthood and receives a handbook complete with all the lessons you missed. Somehow you’re just supposed to know that you should have more money coming in than going out, to change your oil every six months, and not to wear your spring break souvenir t-shirt to a professional job interview! This three week message series is a pretty good time to catch up on what you might have missed. God knows the answers for every test you will face!

Every relationship you have will suffer if you don’t give and accept feedback gracefully, apologize sincerely, say “no” respectfully. How in the world do you do that?

Message Notes

Our success in life is inextricably tied to our relational skills.

Life will never be most satisfying than your relationships.
Life will never be healthier than the health of your relationships.

Three skills that make or break you that rarely get taught are:

1) Accept feedback gracefully.

Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid. Proverbs 12:1

In Exodus 18, Moses got feedback from his father-in-law, and it raised his level of leadership.

Three skills that make or break you that rarely get taught are:

2) Apologize sincerely.

So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has
something against you, leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come
and offer your sacrifice to God. Matthew 5:23-24

An apology is NOT:

A lie
An excuse

An apology is:

An honest acknowledgement of my failure
Asking forgiveness
Initiating change

Three skills that make or break you that rarely get taught are:

3) Say “No”…


Show proper respect to everyone. I Peter 2:17


Now we pray to God that you will not do anything wrong. 2 Corinthians 13:7.


Instead, speaking the truth in love. Ephesians 4:32


A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1


All you need to say is simply “Yes” or “No;” anything beyond this comes from the evil one. Matthew 5:37